The True Meaning of Marriage
One vote in the State Senate separates gay and lesbian New Yorkers from the right to wed. While there have been some surprises among the opposing forces?Roy McDonald’s change of heart?those arrayed on either side of the issue are mostly familiar to us.
Archbishop of New York Timothy Dolan, current President of the US Conference of Catholic Bishops, is among the leading opponents of gay marriage. In a recent post to his blog, Dolan defended the "true meaning of marriage." "Traditional marriage" must exclude homosexuals, reasons Dolan, because God, "human reason and ordered good" demand it. Marriage is not for queers; it is instead "the union of a man and a woman in a loving, permanent, life-giving union to pro-create children."
Dolan’s definition leaves out the hundred or so million heterosexual Americans who are divorced, childless, or locked in loveless marriages. No wonder that Americans have left the Church in droves.
Archbishop Dolan should share his blogs with a social science or humanities professor at a Catholic university prior to posting them. Such caution would save him from logical briar patches like that found in his June 14 post. Dolan argues that governments have no business regulating marriage, and ironically cites China and North Korea as countries that routinely and wrongly "redefine" rights?"but, please, not here!" Dolan omits the fact that China and North Korea do not permit gay marriage. And he fails to acknowledge that he’s a strong proponent of government action to outlaw abortion, a redefinition of rights if ever there was one.
Maureen Dowd thrashed Archbishop Dolan for intervening against gay marriage in her June 18 New York Times column. She took issue with his disagreement that gay marriage is just the latest step on the long path to civil rights for all Americans. Dolan wondered about the "right" of all children to be raised by a mother and father. But those living in glass cathedrals ought to avoid stone throwing. Dowd countered with "how about the right of a child not to be molested by the parish priest?"
Illogic and thoughtlessness are the least of Dolan’s problems. What he and other opponents of gay marriage should fear is the judgment of history. Dolan’s writings will appear to future Americans as John C. Calhoun’s writings appear to Americans today: "We see [slavery] now in its true light, and regard it as the most safe and stable basis for free institutions in the world."
Dolan’s twenty-first century pronouncements on gay marriage will surely sound to our grandchildren’s grandchildren like those of nineteenth century clerics’ on slavery: "There is not one verse in the Bible inhibiting slavery, but many regulating it. It is not then, we conclude, immoral" (Rev. Alexander Campbell). "The right of holding slaves is clearly established in the Holy Scriptures, both by precept and example" (Rev. Dr. Richard Furman, 1838). "The hope of civilization itself hangs on the defeat of Negro suffrage" (prominent Presbyterian pastor). Perhaps the Archbishop would prefer to rely on the authority of the Vatican. Here’s an 1866 statement from the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith: "Slavery itself . . . is not at all contrary to the natural and divine law. . . The vendor should do nothing which might endanger the life, virtue, or Catholic faith of the slave."
How can Christians make religious arguments against gay marriage with straight faces? We’re subject to all the sanctimony because of two obscure homophobic Bible verses? The slavery-era preachers were right: that same Bible?including the New Testament?is completely accepting of chattel slavery.
Advice to gay marriage opponents (especially those in vestments): quit now before you end up on the wrong side of history. Want to be remembered as the New Millennium equivalent of the Ku Klux Klan? You won’t seem that much different from the perspective of a hundred years from now. Want to appear in some twenty-second century high school student’s history essay along with those defending anti-miscegenation laws? Urge your State Senator to support gay marriage and avoid the condemnation of history.
Steve Breyman teaches at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute. Reach him at firstname.lastname@example.org